Not too long ago I read an article about gratitude journaling, with the gist of it being that it didn’t work and was a waste of time. After having a multitude of unfortunate experiences and falling into a depression as a result, the author had tried to incorporate gratitude journaling as a daily practice to improve her mood and lift her spirits.
Incidentally, the facts and research are stacked in favor of Gratitude practices. But that’s beside the point, and I’m not writing this to champion gratitude or any other specific wellness practice. My overall point is that everything isn’t for everybody. The idea of Person/Activity Fit is confirmed by research put forth by Sonja Lyubomurski and Kristin Layous of UCLA, Riverside. Their findings state that, “This notion of the importance of person-activity fit is supported by studies showing that the degree to which participants report enjoying a positive activity predicts how often they complete that activity (Schueller, 2010) and how much happiness they derive from it (Lyubomirsky, 2008).”, which basically means that everything isn’t for everybody (I’m including the citation for the research below, it’s mildly “academic-y” but if you’re up to it, then go for it!). Whatever idea of success that you’re going for with an activity, and whatever perceived success you feel you receive from a practice, is going to be rooted in what resonates with you. If you try yoga and you don’t like it, it doesn’t help you or anyone else for you to continue doing it. If you try Reiki and you don’t feel you get anything from it, it doesn’t help you or anyone else for you to continue doing it. And this is especially if you’re frustrated by not getting the results you feel you should be getting.
There is no wrong way to approach a practice but there are tools and techniques that may make starting and continuing a practice a little easier while also bringing more benefit. Firstly, start with an open mind and ask your SELF some questions like: